Material and Methods: Data was collected by one semi-structured focus group interview. 8 of the spouses from the questionnaire survey, was randomly selected and invited to participate. The interview was audio recorded, transcribed, and analyzed using thematic analysis.
Role Change: The mean age of the wives from the questionnaire survey was 69, and married at a time where the roles in a marriage was more divided and defined in terms of sex. These roles change as the man through his disease, experiences fatigue and reduced energy, and therefor losing the ability to fill out the space and function, he usually has. Often the man is not entirely realistic in his own ability and the wife is forced to take over, even in relation to things she doesn’t cope with. The man's priority of his resources, doesn`t always match to the wishes of the wife. For example, continued training with other men from the structured training program instead of practical work at home.
Isolation: The man’s fatigue means that social activities, both outside and at home, are limited. There for some of the wives are experiencing social isolation.
Alone and the Fear of Losing: The wives try not to show vulnerability to the husband or the children, because they would like to appear as strong and caring people. As their husbands’ disease develops, the fear of the suffering that comes reinforced. Several of the spouses mentioned especially pain, as well as the uncertain future and the fear of losing. Some of the wives feel aloneness, and it is challenging for a large part of them, to talk about the disease with their husbands and others.
They find it difficult to pinpoint exactly what needs, they believe, we as health professionals can meet. But they call for tools in form of written material in relation to being relative to a husband with prostate cancer - how do you deal with emotional things, their own sadness and concern, what is the expected progress of the disease, and how to prepare losing.
Conclusion: The changing role, social isolation, and the feeling of standing alone influence the quality of life of the relatives. The tools they call for, is the Health professionals ability to reduce the factors which affects there QoL.
Written by: Avlastenok J., Rud K., Køppen H., Wendt-Johansen L., Wested H., Østergren P., Herlev Hospital, Dept. of Urology, Herlev, Denmark
Wives of Many Prostate Cancer Sufferers Made Ill or Feel Undermined by the Disease